On some systsems sysconf() can return a very large value, unsuitable for
use with malloc().  Only use sysconf() if HOST_NAME_MAX isn't avalable.

FreeBSD lacks the constant HOST_NAME_MAX, instead using sysconf(3) to
find out the value of the maximum host name length at run time.  Patch
to use this instead of HOST_NAME_MAX.
This brings with it the need to use malloc instead of using a statically
sized buffer for the host name, since the size of the buffer cannot be
known at run time.  Errors from sysconf or malloc just means that the
entire block of code is skipped over (the same way it's skipped if the
call to gethostname() fails), rather than returning any kind of error to
the caller or logging an error message somewhere.

this fixes a segfault when combining --scale-down and --thumbnails on a
sufficiently large directory

this actually uses the old "force geometry" workaround to get the
scale down behaviour (which makes the code a lot cleaner) by
first setting the geometry after the window is created (to avoid
creating a 0x0 sized window, which X does not like).

This reverts commit b6a1cff6.